We know your heart for your son, Mrs. Beal, because we have the same heart for ours. We are dedicated Sports Moms just like you.
We can’t help it. We are hard-wired to help and correct, as a mother and as a sports mom. We want them to have crazy, awesome success and every advantage in all areas of life and we can’t just turn that off when it comes to their sports.
So, we may look a little intense when we begin teaching our tiny athletes how to properly swing the bat as soon as they are capable of holding it up without toppling over. Or, like you, teaching them the proper form to shoot a basketball even if the net is only three feet off the ground.
And when I read the article your son wrote about you. It gave me goosebumps and in all honestly, I was giving you tons of virtual high-fives. (full article at http://bit.ly/2pZQQIx).
I read it over and over. It’s powerful because I immediately thought of so many Sports Moms who find the valuable life lessons in their child’s sports and use those lessons to teach them life-long skills and habits. I started sharing your story.
“See?” I said to them. “You are not alone. Look what Bradley Beal wrote about his Mom.”
“Besta Beal has no chill, and I love her for it.”
And it was inspiring to read about your son’s opportunity to attend a prep school in another part of town outside of what he called “his basketball bubble”.
In the article he wrote:
“So, one night, I sat down with my mom and dad and we made some goals. We decided that I was going to embrace the opportunity. I wasn’t just going to go along for the ride at this nice school. I was going to get a 4.0 GPA. I was going to make the varsity team as a freshman. I was going to get a free ride to college. And I was going to be hungry.”
You gave him the chance to live outside his comfort zone and when he struggled, you backed him up. We all want to be that present with our child.
Wow! The opportunity for a free ride to college, a 4.0 GPA, making varsity as a freshman those are some outstanding goals! But I believe the most important goal you helped Brad set that night was to be and stay hungry.
Because there will be other people, counselors and teachers, who will tell him how important academics are to his success. Because there will be other mentors and and coaches who will explain that making varsity as a freshman will be the first step to basketball success. But who will teach and model and remind him daily to stay hungry?
Mrs. Beal, we know it was you.
Here’s how we know. Because your son wrote this:
I start getting it immediately after every game.
I get roasted. I get dissected. Even if I score 30, I still get it, right on schedule:
… Your legs were gone by the fourth quarter. You weren’t jumping into your shot.
… You were rushing. You were throwing the ball. And what do we do? We shoot the ball. We don’t throw it.
… And, I’m sorry, but your arc was a little flat.
… And I know I don’t even have to say it, but I’m gonna say it anyway. Your elbow wasn’t tucked in on the corner three, baby.
Now, you’re probably thinking, “Man, Coach Brooks is not messing around! Also, why is he calling you baby?”
This stuff is not from Coach. It’s not even from my friends. It’s from my mom.
So, thank you, Mrs. Beal, for showing up authentic in your journey with your son. We promise to show up authentic in ours.
Sports Moms United