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Who Else Wants To Raise a Tough Athlete? Here’s How You Do It!

This last week has been a whirlwind of softball activity, trips, and decisions for my oldest daughter.    She will be leaving the nest soon and pursuing her education and athletic dreams at the next level. I haven’t posted much about this next chapter because frankly, I was a bag of emotions about it. I am super proud of my kid, beaming inside, with watery eyes when I stop to think about her journey.   Yesterday I was able to watch her last day of travel ball and couldn’t help but be flooded with past memories.    If you watched her yesterday, you saw a mature kid at shortstop who made everything look so smooth. You would probably think she always played there (I mean after all her Dad was part of her Coaching staff for a long time. Doesn’t that guarantee her the position she wants?) That couldn’t be…

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How Do You Help Your Child With the Letdown of Being Sent to the Bench?

    No athlete enjoys getting benched. My son was benched in basketball. My daughter was benched in volleyball. My other daughter was benched in softball.   It happens to every athlete sooner or later.     No matter what reason the coach gives–if he even gives one–getting benched is hugely disappointing to most athletes and spirit-crushing to others.     As a parent, how can you best help your child deal with this let-down?   Acknowledge their disappointment.   It’s a big deal to them–don’t diminish that. They are embarrassed, maybe even humiliated. Their competitive spirit has been injured.   Every athlete is different, but we found with our three kids that it was best to not say anything until the sting had worn off. And then, we expressed sorrow for their disappointment, love for them, and pride in their efforts.   Pinpoint the problem.   Once they are…

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When You Feel Like Sending That Angry Email, Think Twice

When the basketball season ended badly for my high school senior son, I loaded up my verbal arsenal and sat down to write a very powerful email to his coach. I worked and re-worked it until finally, it sounded just right–brutally to-the-point with a touch of self-control. But it never got further than my draft folder. That’s happened to me a lot over the years. I’ve written a very loaded email, with every intention of letting the coach know just how I felt about something, and then for one reason or another, I let it sit, and sit, and sit, not quite ready to push send. That was probably the smartest thing I could have done. Let it sit. And now I can tell you why it is a very good idea to let those emails penned out of frustration sit eternally in your draft folder. Reason #1: It could…

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Get Your Tissues Ready, Sports Mamas

There are only a few times in life when you come across something spectacular, something that completely blows you away. Last night was that kind of night for my son, Ryan, his team, the Misfits, and me. Let me introduce Ryan to you.   My son, Ryan, was diagnosed with Acute Lymphoblast Leukemia at the age of three (he is now 11 and is going on 5 1/2 years of being Cancer Free!) Ryan loves baseball and plays on an 11u Select Travel Baseball Team, the Misfits. This is Ryan’s first year released to play any sport he chooses and well, Ryan loves baseball, so of course, his pick was BASEBALL. So this momma went hunting for something that would fit Ryan. I came across Dugout Sports advertising tryouts for a select team I said: “what the hell let’s try.”  Ryan was chosen to be on the team coached by…

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