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Do Uncoachable Kids Become Unemployable Adults?

There was a time when I would have wholeheartedly agreed with this… Now, I don’t. It’s not so simple. Recently a picture with this statement popped up in my Facebook timeline.. a bunch of times. My friend (amazing sports mama of four and Olympic gold medalist) Samantha Arensault Livingstone, also saw it and wrote an article addresses what is at stake if we continue this approach to parenting and coaching. In her article, she writes : I don’t think there’s such a thing as an uncoachable kid. I think there are kids who are at times, uncoachable. There’s a big difference. A critical difference. And, honoring this difference doesn’t mean we toss out accountability and ownership. Just the opposite. So what does that really look like? Samantha’s Six Pillars of High-Performance is a great place to start. If we want our kids to become brave, mindful, resilient leaders – in…

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How I See It

I see lots of posts about younger kids making mistakes, not having a great game, etc. and thought I would offer some perspective based on our recent experience. My 12-year-old was offered a great opportunity. We live on the east coast and he was invited to play with a team on the west coast. We do not play a full schedule with the west coast team but play in larger multi-day tournaments. The team is good. They win a lot. They also lose. Here is what I have learned splitting my time between two coasts: Every tournament has teams that care more about the win than the well being of the children on the team. No matter where you play, you may encounter the coach that will stall a game to run out the clock and secure the win, you will hear parents heckling children on the opposite team, and…

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This Conversation Between Two Gymnastics Moms Restored My Faith in Humanity

Just like anything in life, social media can either be used for good or for destruction, depending on our intent. I’m in several sports moms groups including Sports Moms United and I found this exchange between two gymnastics moms to be one of the most helpful, honest and encouraging exchanges on social media lately. It’s simple. It’s honest. It’s powerful. It went like this… Bridgett asked a vunerable and very real question which most sports moms have (or will have) on their mind. I just gotta ask. For those moms who have raised gymnasts from toddler to college – or even upperclassmen in high school – how did you not break mentally? I mean, I’m being serious. Between the emotional roller coaster, the financial roller coaster, the gym mom roller coaster… I’m exhausted beyond words. And she just turned 10. Missy, another gymnastic mom in the group, replied: My daughter…

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Play Like You Don’t Give A…

Someone once told me that if I really want to be successful I should play/live/write/speak/coach like I don’t care.   *I don’t care about winning. *I don’t care about what people think. *I don’t care about my ego.   It’s good advice.  It’s also really hard to do.   But I’ve found, for myself at least, that just trying this attitude on is when I find my best self.   It’s pretty hard to do ALL the time. But when I let go of thinking ‘what will they think, or what will I lose, or what am I risking’ and just TRUST, the end result is better. It’s definitely scarier but also more fulfilling. Like, writing this blog for example.   I COULD worry about saying f***.   I COULD worry if I’m offending people.   I COULD write in the hopes that you’ll like me, or take some action or…

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